How Fascinating! A Different Approach to Skill Development

Originally published in Los Angeles Sports & Fitness.

I attended the UCLA football game Saturday. One couple brought their young toddler. As we tailgated, the boy ran all over the place. He tried to play with other young kids or he played with his dad, running after his ball and hiking it to his mom.

One time, he ran toward our group and picked up speed. All of a sudden, he face planted. He got to his knees, giggled and said, “I fell.” Then he got up and started again. He did not slow down. He was not embarrassed. He did not think twice about running again. He laughed and continued moving.

Author Timothy Gallwey argues that this is the natural learning process. Falling is a part of the process, and it is not good or bad. The natural learning process removes the evaluative aspect. In The Inner Game of Tennis, he argues that the natural way of learning is best for mastering sports skills.

If our tailgate party had been a practice, a coach would have stopped the child and described the proper running technique. After hearing these instructions, the child would concentrate on the instructions rather than the action. Rather than allowing his body to work without interference from his mind, he would try to control his actions to prevent another fall, ultimately inhibiting his performance.

These instructions tell the child that he made a mistake. At our tailgate party, he had no idea that he made a mistake. One minute he was running; then he wasn’t. Then he was running again. He did not judge himself or worry about falling. The fall did not cause embarrassment. In his mind, there was no evaluation, no mistake. As Gallwey explains:

“The first skill to learn is the art of letting go the human inclination to judge ourselves and our performance as either good or bad.”

As the child illustrated, we possess this skill.

In The Art of Possibility, Benjamin Zander writes about an orchestra rehearsal. Someone made a mistake, and he stopped and said, “How fascinating!” There was no judgment or negative reaction.

In competitive athletics, coaches concentrate on mistakes and view their role as fixing or eliminating mistakes. In the process, we learn that mistakes are bad, and we judge ourselves harshly when we make one.

Rather than giggling and returning to the action or saying, “How fascinating!” our shoulders slump, our eyes fall and our minds concentrate on the mistake. Rather than stay in the moment, we focus on the mistake, which hinders our next opportunity.

Adults need to un-learn their judgment-based behavior to unlock their best performances and enjoy their activities. We must nurture this skill in children rather than forcing adult judgments on them.

When a boy strikes out and looks to the stands, he sees his father’s head slump and senses his disappointment even if his father quickly perks up and cheers his effort. He learns that swinging and missing leads to disappointment. Maybe this teaches him not to swing, especially if he coaxes a walk in his next at-bat and sees his father cheering. Rather than concentrate on learning to swing, his focus changes to getting on base.

However, when is he supposed to learn to hit live pitching? If he never takes a chance, how is he supposed to learn? Because he judges a swing and a miss negatively, he avoids the result by not trying. Rather than giggling at a swinging strike and swinging again, he falls and does not get up.

During the learning process, players must embrace and learn from mistakes (“How fascinating!”) rather than worry or criticize mistakes.  As a coach or parent, celebrate a swinging strike for the effort rather than criticizing the child for missing the ball.

A child naturally views the swing and miss as part of the learning process. However, after being socialized into competitive athletics, he learns that a swinging strike is a mistake.

If youth sports are about learning and development, we must structure comments as instructions, not criticism because mistakes provide the best learning experiences. Unfortunately, our actions and our words do not align, as we say youth sports are about learning until we are in a tight contest and the parents’ and coach’s actions show that winning is more important.

To have the most impact, our actions and philosophy must align in tight games, as well as practices, so we teach and train players about the sport and competitiveness, while allowing young players to maintain the childlike attitude toward mistakes with a giggle, an acknowledgement (“I fell”) and a return to the activity with blissful ignorance.

Brian McCormick is the Director of Coaching for Playmakers Basketball Development League.

6 thoughts on “How Fascinating! A Different Approach to Skill Development

  • Question – Say you have a player who takes wild shots. Maybe I’m reading your article wrong, but are you saying you don’t tell him it’s a bad shot, but you let him figure it out for himself?

    As a coach, how do I make a kid figure out for himself that the running 15′ hookshot over a defender is a bad shot? These are kids 10-11 year old kids.

  • Every situation is different. Rather than telling him that it is a bad shot, I discuss good shots. What constitutes a good shot? When a situation such as this happens, I might ask if it meets the criteria that we set out for a good shot. I don’t want to say “Don’t do that!”, so I work around the issue by trying to explain it through a more positive approach.

    Also, as I wrote in The 21st Century Basketball Practice, I generally do not correct the first mistake. I give the player the opportunity to learn on his or her own. If the mistake occurs again, I may step in. But, I want the player to have the first opportunity to self-correct.

    That being said, shot selection is typically not a big problem on teams that I have coached. Because I empower every player to shoot good shots, maybe there is less inclination to take a bad shot because they know that they will have other opportunities. I don’t know. I get frequent questions on the topic, to make it seem like it is a huge deal, but I’ve never thought of it as a major problem at any point on any team that I have coached.

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